Creating a Dramatic Shift in your Life
I've gotten a few messages recently on Instagram that made me smile - great messages that also made me think:
I honestly love getting messages like this.
Mostly because I feel it. I can feel the calmness. I can feel the shifted energy. I can feel the vibes that I give off and it's not because I'm sharing a highlight reel.
In fact, I don't think I've ever really been one to show a highlight reel on my platforms.
After getting these message, I created this post:
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โ๐ช๐ง ๐ช ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ, ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ค๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ.
๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ค๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐ช๐ด ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ช๐จ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ถ๐ต ๐ช ๐ต๐ณ๐ถ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ช๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ช๐ตโ๐ด ๐ข ๐ฎ๐ช๐ด๐ด๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฆ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฐ ๐ช ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฐ ๐ช ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ.
๐ญ๐ช๐ง๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ด ๐ฉ๐ข๐ณ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฆ, ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ข๐ฏ ๐ฆ๐น๐ต๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฆ.
โ๐ช ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏโ๐ต ๐ค๐ข๐ณ๐ฆโฆโ ๐ช๐ด ๐ข ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ณ๐ข๐ด๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ช๐ตโ๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฐ๐ฌ๐ข๐บ.
๐ชโ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ต ๐ฃ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ฏ, ๐ณ๐ช๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ง๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐บ, ๐ด๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ป๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ด๐ฉ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ญ๐ท๐ฆ๐ดโฆ ๐ฃ๐บ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ.
๐ต๐ณ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ด๐ฏโ๐ต ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฏ๐ข๐ต๐ถ๐ณ๐ข๐ญ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฆ.
๐ชโ๐ฎ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ข ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ค๐ข๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ช ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐ต๐ข๐ถ๐จ๐ฉ๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ ๐ง๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ๐ด.
๐ช๐ฏ๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ, ๐ช ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ฏ, ๐ค๐ข๐ถ๐ด๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ด๐ต๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด, ๐ข๐ฏ๐น๐ช๐ฆ๐ต๐บ, ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ง๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ด, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ด๐ข๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด.
๐ชโ๐ฎ ๐ข ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ณ.
๐ชโ๐ฎ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ง๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ด๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ค๐ข๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ชโ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ช๐ต ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ช ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ช๐ต ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ข๐จ๐ข๐ช๐ฏ.โ
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as a part of my writing process, iโm going back through all of my old journals.
itโs been a powerful reminder that life hasnโt always felt beautiful.
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in fact, the majority of my life has felt hard, like iโve had to work my way through molasses.
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i receive these beautiful messages and my brain silently responds with, โyeah, but it wasnโt always this wayโฆโ and my hands respond with, โโฆthank you, it feels that way.โ
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the truth is that iโve worked for it.
the peace.
the calm.
the alignment.
the gratitude.
it all came slowly, not overnight.
it arrived as i worked my way through all of lifeโs obstacles shifting my thought patterns and old wired beliefs.
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it came when i became unconvinced of the stories i was telling myself and got curious on who i needed to become.
It's that last part.
You truly want to know how I created such a dramatic shift in my life?
Not just once, but over - and over - and over again?
I had to outgrow old versions of myself. I know, easier said than done.
Going through my old journals has been really cool. I was telling my therapist about it because I found such excitement in reading page after page, seeing the exact moments when things had shifted for me.
My therapist called them "sparks" - she said, "It's like you're getting to see where the spark came that set you on a new course, a new trajectory."
That's exactly what it was.
There were so many points in my life where I went from depressed, overwhelmed & anxious into living excited, in forward motion.
This is honestly where my passion is now: helping others create these shifts.
I've had clients ask: "What do you do on down days? What do you do when those days throw you off for weeks?"
With a little bit of guilt in the back of my head, I respond with: "I honestly don't have those days anymore..."
And it's true. I feel like over the years I've created a toolbox full of tools, strategies, methods, and ways of thinking that have allowed me to pivot when I need to and move forward when it's necessary.
If you're unable to connect with me one on one for a session, I'll share a few steps I took to create the shifts to help you get started:
JOURNAL:
Don't lose me just yet, I understand if you don't identify as a "journaling person" but I have to tell you that this has been one of the most impactful tools I've had in shifting not on only my life but my thoughts, my reality, my vision, and my expectations. Through journaling I recognized some of the patterns I was stuck in and was able to brainstorm ways to move through them instead of living life stuck in them. I created a little mini course sharing my journaling strategy if you're curious.
VISION:
No, I'm not talking about dream cars and houses. I'm talking about taking your glasses off and putting on the ones that belong to the highest version of yourself. She is confident. She follows through. She sets goals and acts on them. She's living in forward motion. I walk my clients through this having them step into the shoes of their future self and ask what they see. That future you is living the life you want. You can use my Vision Builder tool to help prompt you through this visualization.
ACTION:
Build the bridge. What are the things you can start doing now? Grab a planner & start scheduling your day in a way that would make your future self proud. I teach my clients to time block their days, it's a strategy that I've used for years now and swear by. My productivity is through the roof while rest and recharge are also staples that are prioritized. There's insane power in action, even small tiny steps forward.
The life you're living now doesn't have to be it.
You have choices.
Options.
Deciding to act on these options is the hardest part. However, if your vision is clear enough, your entire being will feel pulled into it.
I'm here if you need support or an accountability buddy.
xx Raina
